A group of alumni, highly established in their careers, got together to visit their old university professor. Conversation soon turned into complaints about stress in work and life.

Offering his guests coffee, the professor went to the kitchen and returned with a large pot of coffee and an assortment of cups – porcelain, plastic, glass, crystal, some plain looking, some expensive, some exquisite – telling them to help themselves to the coffee.

When all the students had a cup of coffee in hand, the professor said:
“If you noticed, all the nice looking expensive cups were taken up, leaving behind the plain and cheap ones. While it is normal for you to want only the best for yourselves, that is the source of your problems and stress.

Be assured that the cup itself adds no quality to the coffee. In most cases it is just more expensive and in some cases even hides what we drink.

What all of you really wanted was coffee, not the cup, but you consciously went for the best cups. And then you began eyeing each other’s cups.

Now consider this: Life is the coffee;
the jobs, money and position in society are the cups.
They are just tools to hold and contain Life,
and the type of cup we have does not define, nor change the quality of Life we live.

Sometimes, by concentrating only on the cup, we fail to enjoy the coffee. God has provided us. God brews the coffee, not the cups. Enjoy your coffee !

“The happiest people don’t have the best of everything.
They just make the best of everything.”
Live simply. Love generously.
Care deeply. Speak kindly.
Leave the rest to GOD

29 Signs You’re Doing Just Fine (Even If It Doesn’t Feel Like It)

Happiness is not the absence of problems, but the ability to keep things in perspective and deal with them.


We all have days, weeks, months and – for some – even years of feeling anxious and uncertain.  It’s a vague feeling you can’t quite put your finger on.  From the outside, people think you have it all together, but they can’t see what’s going on in your head.  Emptiness fills your thoughts and emotions all too often, nagging at you throughout the day.  You set goals but they never satisfy your ego.  You always feel a day late and a buck short.  The search can seem almost endless.

And a question continues to spin in your mind:  “Why can’t I just be happy?”

The good news is you don’t have to live like this.  There is a better way to view the world that will lead to what you seek.  The first step, though, is to stop searching.  You will never find happiness by continually looking for it in another time and place.  When you focus on the lack of something in your life, what you want will always elude you.

Rather than dwelling on what’s missing in your life, start looking at what you have.  This isn’t just about material possessions; it’s about all the goodness in your life.  When you focus on the abundance you already have, the negative feelings that come from lacking something else gradually fade from your conscious.  Living isn’t an easy thing to do, but it can be enjoyable when you start to see the good instead of focusing on the bad.

Having trouble seeing the goodness?  Here’s a list of things you have to smile about – some obvious signs you’re doing just fine in life:

1 – You have the freedom to live your life the way you want to live it. – If you often worry about what you’re going to do with your life – your career, your family, the next step, etc., be grateful.  All details aside, this means you have ambition, passion, drive, and the freedom to make your own decisions.

2 – You are courageously walking your own path.
 – When people argue with you and challenge your decisions, remind yourself that you don’t have to do what everyone else is doing.  You’ve got to do what’s right for you, even if some people disagree.

3 – You are making difficult decisions and acting upon them.
 – How well you play the game of life comes down to the sum of your choices.  You know this.  Whatever you decide, don’t be the chess piece, be the chess player.

4 – You are working hard for people and causes you believe in.
 – Working hard for something you don’t care about is called stress; working hard for something you love is called passion.

5 – You are choosing to be happy in your own way.
 – When you stop chasing everyone else’s definition of happiness, you begin to see that the decision to be happy has been available all along.

6 – You see obstacles in front of you because you are not settling.
 – If you settle for just anything, there wouldn’t be any obstacles in your way, but then you would never know what you are capable of either.  Because your obstacles are your opportunities.  Obstacles are put in your way to help you determine if what you want is really worth fighting for.

7 – You have made the best of some tough situations.
 – Smiling doesn’t always mean you’re happy with everything.  Sometimes it just means you’re strong enough to accept it and make the best of it.

8 – You have come a long way.
 – Do not judge your failed attempts and mistakes as an indication of your future potential, but as part of your growth process.  Your past has given you the strength and wisdom you have today, so celebrate it and use the knowledge you’ve gained.  Don’t let it haunt you and hold you back.

9 – You haven’t quit and you aren’t planning on it.
 – People rarely quit over the last thing that happened.  Instead they quit a tiny bit each day.  Trying to fix the last thing misses the point.  Keep this in mind.

10 – You do your best to accept what you can’t change.
 – Moving on is never an easy thing, but if you start accepting things for what they are it’ll be a lot easier.  Acceptance is always the key to moving forward and making positive changes that are within your control.

11 – You aren’t scared to fail forward.
 – The biggest difference between wildly successful people and total failures is that successful people fail more often, instead of just once.

12 – You haven’t let fear get in your way.
 – You have to wonder how many people are afraid to die, in part, because they often realize too late that they were afraid to live.

13 – You still believe in the possibilities that lie ahead.
 – Accept what is, let go of what was and have faith in what could be.  Remember, life does not have to be anywhere near perfect to be wonderful.

14 – You dare to dream every day.
 – Dr. King gave the famous “I have a dream” speech not the “I have a plan” speech.  It’s our dreams that change the course of history, not just our plans.  Keep dreaming.

15 – You have a vision for your future.
 – “Vision” is the ability to talk about your future with such clarity, it’s as if you are talking about your past.

16 – You haven’t let the judgments of others stop you.
 – Keep listening to your intuition, and make this your lifelong motto: “I respectfully do not care.”  Say it to anyone who passes judgment on something you strongly believe in.

17 – You are doing what you can with what you have.
 – The secret to living the life of your dreams is to start living the life of your dreams, right now, to any degree that you already can.

18 – You are doing your best to provide value.
 – No one is entitled to success.  To remain successful, you must constantly find new ways to add value.  Keep putting your heart, mind and soul into even your smallest acts.  This is one of the great secrets of lasting success.

19 – You go out of your way to help people.
 – Service is not doing what is required of us.  Service is doing more than is required of us.  Remember, successful people are always looking for ways to help others.  Unsuccessful people are always asking, “What’s in it for me?”

20 – You aren’t scared to express your love, openly.
 – Love is great when spoken, but greatest when shown.  So if you care about someone’s well-being, show it.  Keep doing little things daily to show the people around you that you care.

21 – You continue to make a difference.
 – Have you ever thought about how much your actions mean to others?  Maybe that smile you gave to a stranger today made their bad day better.  Maybe that hello you gave to a colleague today made them realize people actually notice them and care.  Maybe that money you gave to a homeless man today gave him hope.  Maybe spending time with someone special today made them forget their problems for a while.  Keep it up.

22 – You have enough right now to live comfortably.
 – You didn’t go to sleep hungry last night.  You awoke this morning with a roof over your head.  You had a choice of what clothes to wear.  You have access to clean drinking water and electricity.  You are online right now.  You have plenty to be comfortable.  Being wealthy is a mindset.  Want less and appreciate more.

23 – You haven’t let rampant materialism get the best of you.
 – Our lives are not defined by the things we possess.  Our lives are defined by the things we pursue.  Make sure what you own, never owns you.

24 – You are reasonably healthy.
 – In other words, if you got sick today you could recover.  Never underestimate the gift of your health.  It’s the greatest wealth you will ever own.  It’s the foundation for every chance at happiness and success life has to offer.  Your body is the only place you will truly ever live.

25 – Your relationships are less dramatic than they use to be.
 – Keep forgoing the drama and ignoring the negativity.  Don’t let ignorance stop you from being the best you can be.  Just keep doing what you’re doing – being sincere and kind, and promoting what you love, rather than bashing what you hate.

26 – You have escaped from some very toxic relationships.
 – Don’t worry too much about people who don’t worry about you.  Know your worth!  When you give yourself to someone who doesn’t respect you, you surrender pieces of your soul that you’ll never get back.

27 – You know deep down that you are not alone.
 – Next time you feel all alone, remember, again, that you are not.

28 – You have great people in your life who are standing beside you.
 – Know that it’s less important to have more friends and more important to have real ones.  And remember, it’s during the toughest times of your life that you’ll get to see the true colors of the people who say they care about you.  Don’t take these people for granted.  Look around and appreciate them, right now.

29 – You have a home.
 – A house is a home when it shelters the body and comforts the soul.  But a home isn’t always a physical structure, or a specific location on a map.  Home is wherever the people you love are, whenever you’re with them.  It’s not a defined place, but a space in your heart and mind that builds upon itself like little bricks being stacked to create something stable that you take with you for your entire life, wherever you may go.

Recognizing these little victories in your life on a daily basis can take you from a mindset of wishing you had more, to a mindset of joyful appreciation.

*NOTE: This is not my original article. I have had it saved it for quite sometime. If the creator can contact me will like to give credits. Cheers !

Learn to enjoy Life !

~ Yes work is important. Following your dreams is important. Earning money is important. But enjoying life is important too ! Don’t be so busy with your work, that you don’t have time for yourself and things you like. Spend some time with your friends and family. Take the weekend off and go someplace you always wanted to. Life is short, enjoy before it’s too late. ~ 🙂


Life Lessons from Harry Potter

Okie, so those who know me well, also know how damn much i’m obsessed with Harry Potter ! 😀 So, i just finished reading all the 7 books for the 3rd time and well, here are some of the things (or Life Lessons) i learnt from them. I think we all could actually really learn alot about Life from these books. Hats off to J.K. Rowling !


Life Lessons ~

1. It is our choices, that show what we are, far more than our abilities.

2. A guy and a girl can be friends ~ Harry and Hermoine proved it.

3. Don’t Judge Someone Based on the Past. Not everyone is mean and bad in reality ~ Snape turned out to be good.

4. People find it far easier to forgive others for being wrong than being right.

5. The things we lose have a way of coming back to us in the end – if not always in the way we expect.

6. The pen is mightier than the sword.

7. Fear of a name increases fear of the thing itself. ~ Albus Dumbledore

8. True love does exist ~ After all this time? Always.

9. It takes a great deal of bravery to stand up to our enemies, but just as much to stand up to our friends.

10. Don’t judge a book – or a person – by its cover.

11. “If you want to know what a man’s like, take a good look at how he treats his inferiors, not his equals.” ~ Sirius Black

12. “Numbing the pain for a while will make it worse when you finally feel it.” 

13. Marry your best friend, they know all about you ~ Ron and Hermoine

14. “Never trust anything that thinks for itself if you can’t see where it keeps its brain.” –Arthur Weasley,

15. Wait for the one you really love ~ Ginny got Harry after 7 years.

16. Don’t waste your life being afraid of what follows. “To the well-organized mind, death is merely the next great adventure.” –Albus Dumbledore

17. You should be kind of a know-it-all. It helps a lot. ~ Hermoine was.

18. Never trust a man who shows up with a dragon’s egg in his pocket.

19. “Understanding is the first step to acceptance, and only with acceptance can there be recovery.”

20. Family’s are important.  And also, the family you are born into matters much less than the family you choose. ~ See Harry and The Dursley’s

21. You can ALWAYS count on you real friends to be there. ~ Harry + Ron + Hermoine

22. “Indifference and neglect often do much more damage than outright dislike.” ~ Albus Dumbledore

23. All and any kind of knowledge is powerful (not just the things you study). Read some extra stuff. It could be useful. ~ take into account, Luna Lovegood and Hermoine

24. Never underestimate anyone ~ tons of examples here ! to name a few, Neviell kills Nagini. Fred and George start their own business etc etc.

25. Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.’ (One of my fav.)

26. Respect everyone ~ people, giants, elfs, owls, cats, centaurs.

27. You are never too old to love candies and sweets ~ remember Dumbledore’s passwords

28. Do not get between a mother and her child ~ Voldemort almost died coz of this.

29. Always question the authorities. If you have a doubt, absolutely clear it out.

30. It does not matter what someone is born, but what they grow to be.

31. Sometimes, you should break the rules.

32. Weasley is our King !

33. The one’s that truly love us, never really leave us. You can always find them in your heart.

34. Don’t let the muggles get you down.

35. And most importantly ~ BELIEVE IN MAGIC !Image