CUP OF COFFEE

A group of alumni, highly established in their careers, got together to visit their old university professor. Conversation soon turned into complaints about stress in work and life.

Offering his guests coffee, the professor went to the kitchen and returned with a large pot of coffee and an assortment of cups – porcelain, plastic, glass, crystal, some plain looking, some expensive, some exquisite – telling them to help themselves to the coffee.

When all the students had a cup of coffee in hand, the professor said:
“If you noticed, all the nice looking expensive cups were taken up, leaving behind the plain and cheap ones. While it is normal for you to want only the best for yourselves, that is the source of your problems and stress.

Be assured that the cup itself adds no quality to the coffee. In most cases it is just more expensive and in some cases even hides what we drink.

What all of you really wanted was coffee, not the cup, but you consciously went for the best cups. And then you began eyeing each other’s cups.

Now consider this: Life is the coffee;
the jobs, money and position in society are the cups.
They are just tools to hold and contain Life,
and the type of cup we have does not define, nor change the quality of Life we live.

Sometimes, by concentrating only on the cup, we fail to enjoy the coffee. God has provided us. God brews the coffee, not the cups. Enjoy your coffee !

MORAL ~
“The happiest people don’t have the best of everything.
They just make the best of everything.”
Live simply. Love generously.
Care deeply. Speak kindly.
Leave the rest to GOD

IN CASE OF EMERGENCY

Download link for Card Size I.C.E. Card —–> Card Size

Download Link for Key Ring Size I.C.E. Card —–> Key Ring Size

Nowadays we all have smart phones and most of the times those smart phones are locked/password protected or sometimes they run out of battery. Now, imagine you or some other person are lost somewhere or unable to communicate; or god forbid have met with an accident. How will the people trying to help you know who you are or whom to contact for your help when your smart phone is locked ?! Yes, you may have your identity card or driving license with you, but that still may not have the information required at that particular time.
 
So, here is the simple solution ! Click on the above links and download this simple pdf on A4 paper.
Presenting to you, (In Case of Emergency) I.C.E Cards.
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In these cards you have to mention your Name, Address, Contact number(s) of people who are to be contacted if you are in need of help, your Blood Group and any Health issues or Allergies you may have.
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This small and inexpensive effort may be your life saver one day ! You can either print them out or make them yourself. These are in 2 sizes, Card size to keep in your wallet or purse and Key-ring size which can be attached to your vehicle’s keys. You can laminate them or secure them with clear tape.
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Make these for your self, your family, friends and even your helpers. You may never know who might this come in handy to. Stay safe and take care ! 🙂

29 Signs You’re Doing Just Fine (Even If It Doesn’t Feel Like It)

Happiness is not the absence of problems, but the ability to keep things in perspective and deal with them.

 

We all have days, weeks, months and – for some – even years of feeling anxious and uncertain.  It’s a vague feeling you can’t quite put your finger on.  From the outside, people think you have it all together, but they can’t see what’s going on in your head.  Emptiness fills your thoughts and emotions all too often, nagging at you throughout the day.  You set goals but they never satisfy your ego.  You always feel a day late and a buck short.  The search can seem almost endless.

And a question continues to spin in your mind:  “Why can’t I just be happy?”

The good news is you don’t have to live like this.  There is a better way to view the world that will lead to what you seek.  The first step, though, is to stop searching.  You will never find happiness by continually looking for it in another time and place.  When you focus on the lack of something in your life, what you want will always elude you.

Rather than dwelling on what’s missing in your life, start looking at what you have.  This isn’t just about material possessions; it’s about all the goodness in your life.  When you focus on the abundance you already have, the negative feelings that come from lacking something else gradually fade from your conscious.  Living isn’t an easy thing to do, but it can be enjoyable when you start to see the good instead of focusing on the bad.

Having trouble seeing the goodness?  Here’s a list of things you have to smile about – some obvious signs you’re doing just fine in life:

1 – You have the freedom to live your life the way you want to live it. – If you often worry about what you’re going to do with your life – your career, your family, the next step, etc., be grateful.  All details aside, this means you have ambition, passion, drive, and the freedom to make your own decisions.

2 – You are courageously walking your own path.
 – When people argue with you and challenge your decisions, remind yourself that you don’t have to do what everyone else is doing.  You’ve got to do what’s right for you, even if some people disagree.

3 – You are making difficult decisions and acting upon them.
 – How well you play the game of life comes down to the sum of your choices.  You know this.  Whatever you decide, don’t be the chess piece, be the chess player.

4 – You are working hard for people and causes you believe in.
 – Working hard for something you don’t care about is called stress; working hard for something you love is called passion.

5 – You are choosing to be happy in your own way.
 – When you stop chasing everyone else’s definition of happiness, you begin to see that the decision to be happy has been available all along.

6 – You see obstacles in front of you because you are not settling.
 – If you settle for just anything, there wouldn’t be any obstacles in your way, but then you would never know what you are capable of either.  Because your obstacles are your opportunities.  Obstacles are put in your way to help you determine if what you want is really worth fighting for.

7 – You have made the best of some tough situations.
 – Smiling doesn’t always mean you’re happy with everything.  Sometimes it just means you’re strong enough to accept it and make the best of it.

8 – You have come a long way.
 – Do not judge your failed attempts and mistakes as an indication of your future potential, but as part of your growth process.  Your past has given you the strength and wisdom you have today, so celebrate it and use the knowledge you’ve gained.  Don’t let it haunt you and hold you back.

9 – You haven’t quit and you aren’t planning on it.
 – People rarely quit over the last thing that happened.  Instead they quit a tiny bit each day.  Trying to fix the last thing misses the point.  Keep this in mind.

10 – You do your best to accept what you can’t change.
 – Moving on is never an easy thing, but if you start accepting things for what they are it’ll be a lot easier.  Acceptance is always the key to moving forward and making positive changes that are within your control.

11 – You aren’t scared to fail forward.
 – The biggest difference between wildly successful people and total failures is that successful people fail more often, instead of just once.

12 – You haven’t let fear get in your way.
 – You have to wonder how many people are afraid to die, in part, because they often realize too late that they were afraid to live.

13 – You still believe in the possibilities that lie ahead.
 – Accept what is, let go of what was and have faith in what could be.  Remember, life does not have to be anywhere near perfect to be wonderful.

14 – You dare to dream every day.
 – Dr. King gave the famous “I have a dream” speech not the “I have a plan” speech.  It’s our dreams that change the course of history, not just our plans.  Keep dreaming.

15 – You have a vision for your future.
 – “Vision” is the ability to talk about your future with such clarity, it’s as if you are talking about your past.

16 – You haven’t let the judgments of others stop you.
 – Keep listening to your intuition, and make this your lifelong motto: “I respectfully do not care.”  Say it to anyone who passes judgment on something you strongly believe in.

17 – You are doing what you can with what you have.
 – The secret to living the life of your dreams is to start living the life of your dreams, right now, to any degree that you already can.

18 – You are doing your best to provide value.
 – No one is entitled to success.  To remain successful, you must constantly find new ways to add value.  Keep putting your heart, mind and soul into even your smallest acts.  This is one of the great secrets of lasting success.

19 – You go out of your way to help people.
 – Service is not doing what is required of us.  Service is doing more than is required of us.  Remember, successful people are always looking for ways to help others.  Unsuccessful people are always asking, “What’s in it for me?”

20 – You aren’t scared to express your love, openly.
 – Love is great when spoken, but greatest when shown.  So if you care about someone’s well-being, show it.  Keep doing little things daily to show the people around you that you care.

21 – You continue to make a difference.
 – Have you ever thought about how much your actions mean to others?  Maybe that smile you gave to a stranger today made their bad day better.  Maybe that hello you gave to a colleague today made them realize people actually notice them and care.  Maybe that money you gave to a homeless man today gave him hope.  Maybe spending time with someone special today made them forget their problems for a while.  Keep it up.

22 – You have enough right now to live comfortably.
 – You didn’t go to sleep hungry last night.  You awoke this morning with a roof over your head.  You had a choice of what clothes to wear.  You have access to clean drinking water and electricity.  You are online right now.  You have plenty to be comfortable.  Being wealthy is a mindset.  Want less and appreciate more.

23 – You haven’t let rampant materialism get the best of you.
 – Our lives are not defined by the things we possess.  Our lives are defined by the things we pursue.  Make sure what you own, never owns you.

24 – You are reasonably healthy.
 – In other words, if you got sick today you could recover.  Never underestimate the gift of your health.  It’s the greatest wealth you will ever own.  It’s the foundation for every chance at happiness and success life has to offer.  Your body is the only place you will truly ever live.

25 – Your relationships are less dramatic than they use to be.
 – Keep forgoing the drama and ignoring the negativity.  Don’t let ignorance stop you from being the best you can be.  Just keep doing what you’re doing – being sincere and kind, and promoting what you love, rather than bashing what you hate.

26 – You have escaped from some very toxic relationships.
 – Don’t worry too much about people who don’t worry about you.  Know your worth!  When you give yourself to someone who doesn’t respect you, you surrender pieces of your soul that you’ll never get back.

27 – You know deep down that you are not alone.
 – Next time you feel all alone, remember, again, that you are not.

28 – You have great people in your life who are standing beside you.
 – Know that it’s less important to have more friends and more important to have real ones.  And remember, it’s during the toughest times of your life that you’ll get to see the true colors of the people who say they care about you.  Don’t take these people for granted.  Look around and appreciate them, right now.

29 – You have a home.
 – A house is a home when it shelters the body and comforts the soul.  But a home isn’t always a physical structure, or a specific location on a map.  Home is wherever the people you love are, whenever you’re with them.  It’s not a defined place, but a space in your heart and mind that builds upon itself like little bricks being stacked to create something stable that you take with you for your entire life, wherever you may go.

Recognizing these little victories in your life on a daily basis can take you from a mindset of wishing you had more, to a mindset of joyful appreciation.

*NOTE: This is not my original article. I have had it saved it for quite sometime. If the creator can contact me will like to give credits. Cheers !

~ What does your eye colour tell about you ~

Our eyes have many distinguished attributes. Some are blessed with gorgeous almond shaped hazel eyes while some have the breathtaking azure touch like a deep blue sea. Did you know no two people have exactly the same eye colour? Sometimes when we meet someone the first thing that we notice about them is their eye colour. We all have different eye colours depending on the amount of melanin pigments present in our eye’s iris. Your eye colour can tell a lot about your personality too. You can also see it as a fact or a tad of fun. Let’s have a look at what your eye colour tells about you.

~ BLACK EYES ~
Black is one of the rare eye colours. People who usually have black eye colour have actually very dark brown eyes. What it tells about your personality is that you are a person who is lively and full of passion. You will not leave a work unless you finish it and give your 100 percent in whatever you do. You are competitive and try to show that you are able to do a task better than anybody else. People with black eyes are somewhat secretive too. They won’t easily trust you with their feelings. Thus, they are also reluctant to fall in love. But when they do, they prove to be very loyal. They usually have strong spiritual beliefs. These people are trustworthy and you can rely on them completely if you have given them some responsibility. They won’t let you down. These people with all their positive qualities are also very argumentative, even when they know they are wrong. People who have black eyes are also not very patient and can’t wait in long lines.

~ BROWN EYES ~
Brown eye colour is one of the most common eye colours all over the world. Brown colour is an earthy but rich colour. It represents simplicity, strength and creativity. If you are a person with brown colour then you are likely to be the life of a party. People with brown are close to nature and don’t have much love for materialistic possessions. They are great lovers and know how to make their partners feel special and are very trustworthy. They have charming looks and are adorable and are quite grounded. They are extroverts who love making new friends. But still they are afraid to express their feelings in front of others. They have a good sense of humour and can cheer you up anytime. They are wise and you will tend to go to them for any piece of advice. They are kind of your “go to” people. Need anything, ask for the help of a brown eyed person. They are quite creative and have a very good fashion sense.

~ BLUE EYES ~
We will all admit when we see blue eyes we immediately find ourselves attracted to them. Blue is such a lively colour that people who have blue eyes are found to be very youthful. Many use contact lenses to make their eyes seem blue and now a days researches are going on for developing laser procedures to make your brown eyes blue. Blue eyed people are charming, attractive and very friendly. People with blue eyes are spontaneous and energetic people who tend to live their life fully. They have a natural tendency to make others happy. They will try with all their might to help people and are very kind and sincere. They are also very spiritual and tend to want a long lasting love life. They want a happy family with their partners and expect full commitment from their partners. They also have a great observation power and nothing will just pass through their keen eyes. People with blue eyes tend to be very outgoing, bubbly and are not seen to be shy. They are very open with their feelings.

~ GREY EYES ~
People who have gray eyes are born to be leaders. They are most sought to resolve issues between people because they can easily understand the issues of both sides and come up with a sensible way to break the ice. They have a strong nature and remain strong in spite of facing any amount of external pressure. They can easily adapt themselves to any new environment. They encompass a unique personality and are people who tend to be very busy. They can’t be kept without doing anything for a long time. They are street smart, with good business sense and are witty in nature. They have a calm nature and people love to be around them. They have a very rational attitude and prove to be good secret keepers. They are not very adventurous. They tend to keep themselves and their surrounding neat and clean but are not obsessive about it. They are able to manage their lives easily with their practical thinking and wise decisions. They are very faithful and long for a permanent relationship. Once they find their soul mates they love them deeply and are very romantic lovers.

~ GREEN EYES ~
Green eyed people are very vibrant people and are found to be very outgoing. They love adventure and can take on any challenge on a whim. You would not want to hurt them in any way or be in their bad books because they will find a way to get back at you and have their revenge. They are very good speakers. They are very intelligent people and have a great passion towards their lives. They will not allow anyone to stand in their way of living their lives fully. They are passionate lovers and tend to have long relationships. But they can be very jealous sometimes. They are extremely good looking and of course their eye colour being the sexiest eye colour helps a lot. They love to make people laugh and are trustworthy. But if you say anything mean to them, they will always come up with a clever retort, making you look like a fool.

~ HAZEL EYES ~
Hazel eyed people are those who will say “challenge accepted” as soon as they see one. They will never back down from a fight and prove that they are the best. They are sweet, empathetic and kind people as long as the things turn out as they want. They are generally outgoing people and adventurous. They also have a very short temper and you would not want to come in their way while they are mad. They have all the qualities of brown and green eyed people. They are spontaneous and fun loving and are chance takers. They are beautiful and elegant. In terms of having relationships, they tend to keep them short, though they are very much capable to woo you easily owing to their romantic personalities. They love experimenting and are very energetic and courageous.

 

 

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~ Patience is the key ~

Once Buddha was traveling with a few of his followers.
While they were passing a lake, Buddha told one of his disciples, “I am thirsty. Do get me some water from the lake.”

The disciple walked up to the lake.
At that moment, a bullock cart started crossing through the lake.
As a result, the water became very muddy and turbid.
The disciple thought, “How can I give this muddy water to Buddha to drink?”

So he came back and told Buddha, “The water in there is very muddy. I don’t think it is fit to drink.”
After about half an hour, again Buddha asked the same disciple to go back to the lake.

The disciple went back, and found that the water was still muddy.
He returned and informed Buddha about the same.
After sometime, again Buddha asked the same disciple to go back.

This time, the disciple found the mud had settled down, and the water was clean and clear. So he collected some water in a pot and brought it to Buddha.

Buddha looked at the water, and then he looked up at the disciple and said, ” See what you did to make the water clean. You let it be, and the mud settled down on its own, and you have clear water.”

“Your mind is like that too ! When it is disturbed, just let it be. Give it a little time. It will settle down on its own. You don’t have to put in any effort to calm it down. It will happen. It is effortless.”

Having ‘Peace of Mind’ is not a strenuous job, it is an effortless process. So keep calm and carry on.

 

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Learn to enjoy Life !

~ Yes work is important. Following your dreams is important. Earning money is important. But enjoying life is important too ! Don’t be so busy with your work, that you don’t have time for yourself and things you like. Spend some time with your friends and family. Take the weekend off and go someplace you always wanted to. Life is short, enjoy before it’s too late. ~ 🙂

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~ 15 Things to avoid, to be happy ~

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~ 15 Things to Avoid to be Happy ~ 🙂

Here is a list of 15 things which, if you give up on them, will make your life a lot easier and much, much happier.

1. GIVE UP YOUR NEED TO ALWAYS BE RIGHT

There are so many of us who can’t stand the idea of being wrong – wanting to always be right – even at the risk of ending great relationships or causing a great deal of stress and pain, for us and for others. It’s just not worth it. Whenever you feel the ‘urgent’ need to jump into a fight over who is right and who is wrong, ask yourself this question: “Would I rather be right, or would I rather be kind?” Wayne Dyer. What difference will that make? Is your ego really that big?

2. GIVE UP YOUR NEED FOR CONTROL

Be willing to give up your need to always control everything that happens to you and around you – situations, events, people, etc. Whether they are loved ones, coworkers, or just strangers you meet on the street – just allow them to be. Allow everything and everyone to be just as they are and you will see how much better will that make you feel.
“By letting it go it all gets done. The world is won by those who let it go. But when you try and try. The world is beyond winning.” Lao Tzu

3. GIVE UP ON BLAME

Give up on your need to blame others for what you have or don’t have, for what you feel or don’t feel. Stop giving your powers away and start taking responsibility for your life.

4. GIVE UP YOUR SELF-DEFEATING SELF-TALK

Oh my. How many people are hurting themselves because of their negative, polluted and repetitive self-defeating mindset? Don’t believe everything that your mind is telling you – especially if it’s negative and self-defeating. You are better than that.
“The mind is a superb instrument if used rightly. Used wrongly, however, it becomes very destructive.” Eckhart Tolle

5. GIVE UP YOUR LIMITING BELIEFS

about what you can or cannot do, about what is possible or impossible. From now on, you are no longer going to allow your limiting beliefs to keep you stuck in the wrong place. Spread your wings and fly!
“A belief is not an idea held by the mind, it is an idea that holds the mind” Elly Roselle

6. GIVE UP COMPLAINING

Give up your constant need to complain about those many, many, maaany things – people, situations, events that make you unhappy, sad and depressed. Nobody can make you unhappy, no situation can make you sad or miserable unless you allow it to. It’s not the situation that triggers those feelings in you, but how you choose to look at it. Never underestimate the power of positive thinking.

7. GIVE UP THE LUXURY OF CRITICISM

Give up your need to criticize things, events or people that are different than you. We are all different, yet we are all the same. We all want to be happy, we all want to love and be loved and we all want to be understood. We all want something, and something is wished by us all.

8. GIVE UP YOUR NEED TO IMPRESS OTHERS

Stop trying so hard to be something that you’re not just to make others like you. It doesn’t work this way. The moment you stop trying so hard to be something that you’re not, the moment you take off all your masks, the moment you accept and embrace the real you, you will find people will be drawn to you, effortlessly.


9. GIVE UP YOUR RESISTANCE TO CHANGE

Change is good. Change will help you move from A to B. Change will help you make improvements in your life and also the lives of those around you. Follow your bliss, embrace change – don’t resist it.“Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors for you where there were only walls” Joseph Campbell


10. GIVE UP LABELS

Stop labeling those things, people or events that you don’t understand as being weird or different and try opening your mind, little by little. Minds only work when open. “The highest form of ignorance is when you reject something you don’t know anything about.” Wayne Dyer

11. GIVE UP ON YOUR FEARS

Fear is just an illusion, it doesn’t exist – you created it. It’s all in your mind. Correct the inside and the outside will fall into place.“The only thing we have to fear, is fear itself.” Franklin D. Roosevelt

12. GIVE UP YOUR EXCUSES

Send them packing and tell them they’re fired. You no longer need them. A lot of times we limit ourselves because of the many excuses we use. Instead of growing and working on improving ourselves and our lives, we get stuck, lying to ourselves, using all kind of excuses – excuses that 99.9% of the time are not even real.

13. GIVE UP THE PAST

I know, I know. It’s hard. Especially when the past looks so much better than the present and the future looks so frightening, but you have to take into consideration the fact that the present moment is all you have and all you will ever have. The past you are now longing for – the past that you are now dreaming about – was ignored by you when it was present. Stop deluding yourself. Be present in everything you do and enjoy life. After all life is a journey not a destination. Have a clear vision for the future, prepare yourself, but always be present in the now.

14. GIVE UP ATTACHMENT

This is a concept that, for most of us is so hard to grasp and I have to tell you that it was for me too, (it still is) but it’s not something impossible. You get better and better at with time and practice. The moment you detach yourself from all things, (and that doesn’t mean you give up your love for them – because love and attachment have nothing to do with one another, attachment comes from a place of fear, while love… well, real love is pure, kind, and self less, where there is love there can’t be fear, and because of that, attachment and love cannot coexist) you become so peaceful, so tolerant, so kind, and so serene. You will get to a place where you will be able to understand all things without even trying. A state beyond words.

15. GIVE UP LIVING YOUR LIFE TO OTHER PEOPLE’S EXPECTATIONS

Way too many people are living a life that is not theirs to live. They live their lives according to what others think is best for them, they live their lives according to what their parents think is best for them, to what their friends, their enemies and their teachers, their government and the media think is best for them. They ignore their inner voice, that inner calling. They are so busy with pleasing everybody, with living up to other people’s expectations, that they lose control over their lives. They forget what makes them happy, what they want, what they need….and eventually they forget about themselves. You have one life – this one right now – you must live it, own it, and especially don’t let other people’s opinions distract you from your path.

~ Choose people wisely ~

~ Choose people wisely ~

~ Don’t hang with people who bring you down. Do not bring people in your life who weigh you down. Trust your instincts – good relationships feel good. They feel right. They don’t hurt. They’re not painful. That’s not just with somebody you want to marry, but it’s with the friends that you choose. It’s with the people you surround yourselves with. Keep people in your life who bring out the best in you, not the stress in you ! ~ 🙂